The Miracle of Forgiveness
When You Say "That's Okay" Do You Really Mean It? Forgiveness is difficult for many people because too often we think to forgive is also to condone. We put up barriers to forgiving others because of this notion. Many times; in fact, most times what we forgive is NOT okay. It is not okay for it to have happened, it is not okay to do it again - it's simply NOT okay. So, unless the offender asks for forgiveness with sincerity amd remorse (and sometimes when they do), we often find it difficult to forgive.
If you look up the word "forgive" in the dictionary, one of the definitions you will find is: to cease to feel resentful against. Forgiving, i.e, ceasing to feel resentment against someone or something benefits who? You. Forgiving benefits YOU. One of the most debated subjects around the world is forgiveness. Someone does something wrong, either against an individual or against the society and they are never really forgiven. To forgive, means to pardon the accused with no resentment. If forgiveness is complete, should the offense be totally forgotten, as if it never existed?
In our journey to inner peace and healing, both guilt and forgiveness of self and others have a profound effect on us. Guilt is defined as a feeling of culpability especially for imagined offenses or from a sense of inadequacy i.e, a self-reproach; and forgiveness as the act of forgiving or the ceasing of feeling resentment against an offender. Guilt and lack of forgiveness of self and others, burdens many people with the heavy weights of inappropriate shame and the destruction of deep-seated resentments. In recent years, much has been written about the destruction of repressed emotions and particularly anger and resentment in contributing to life threatening illnesses.
Join Coach Brenda Lane-Oliver on Saturday, November 7, 2020 at 10am for a free Zoom Discussion on the Miracle of Forgiveness. https://us02web.zoom.us/j/87489793102?pwd=eHlENDBSQjloTUcvTTVPc1FKOHNWQT09 ID:874 8979 3102 PW: 139788